JP, calm down. I didn't say 'do what you like, run wild and naked through the streets'
What I meant was that when you reach a certain level of life experience, you learn how to judge situations and people with a better degree of error to success ratio, and thus don't have to worry so much about your choices.
You can still make mistakes, of course. But there's a modercrum of intelligence in living your life how you see fit and damn anyone else as long as nobody is being harmed.
The word you mean, of course, is modicum. And oui, yes. There is some sense to not letting the opinions of others dictate how you live your life - I like men. This is not a thing I hide. I do not let the opinions of the Westboro Baptist people and their hatemongering followers dissuade me from sleeping with men.
However, you make your actions and choices readily available for public consumption, but then you do not like what others have to say about these things. Your only response so far as been, 'No one is getting hurt, therefore I do not care what your opinions are.' This is foolish.
It is simple. If you do not want others to comment, do not post things where they can see them.
I don't disagree with you. I've never been unwilling to be pulled up on bad behaviour, that I remember.
I'm currently studying to be a doctor however, so social situations sometimes disappear from my radar in the smoke screen that is my life right now.
(Another part of being an adult, however. Accepting when you make a mistake and seeking to make amends/not do it again)
I think the caring would depend on the person doing the commenting. Like you said, someone commenting just to complain about things they don't understand or have a non-agreeable attitude about and my behaviour or actions are unlikely to change.
Someone who I have respect for though? I'm not sure I would entirely change my behaviour but I might make it less public if it offended.
Sometimes there's no way to compromise though. People will make their opinion of you obvious and you just have to accept it, even if you disagree. This is what I meant when I said 'not care', which I suppose means more 'am resigned to a thing unlikely to change'
Not that anyone here has Fallen into that place, of course.
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Date: 2016-04-27 01:27 pm (UTC)What I meant was that when you reach a certain level of life experience, you learn how to judge situations and people with a better degree of error to success ratio, and thus don't have to worry so much about your choices.
You can still make mistakes, of course. But there's a modercrum of intelligence in living your life how you see fit and damn anyone else as long as nobody is being harmed.
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Date: 2016-04-27 03:17 pm (UTC)However, you make your actions and choices readily available for public consumption, but then you do not like what others have to say about these things. Your only response so far as been, 'No one is getting hurt, therefore I do not care what your opinions are.' This is foolish.
It is simple. If you do not want others to comment, do not post things where they can see them.
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Date: 2016-04-28 08:42 am (UTC)I'm currently studying to be a doctor however, so social situations sometimes disappear from my radar in the smoke screen that is my life right now.
(Another part of being an adult, however. Accepting when you make a mistake and seeking to make amends/not do it again)
I think the caring would depend on the person doing the commenting. Like you said, someone commenting just to complain about things they don't understand or have a non-agreeable attitude about and my behaviour or actions are unlikely to change.
Someone who I have respect for though? I'm not sure I would entirely change my behaviour but I might make it less public if it offended.
Sometimes there's no way to compromise though. People will make their opinion of you obvious and you just have to accept it, even if you disagree. This is what I meant when I said 'not care', which I suppose means more 'am resigned to a thing unlikely to change'
Not that anyone here has Fallen into that place, of course.